Why do I struggle to fit in?
Do you ever have days where you just wonder why you are not fitting in? Do you ever think to yourself why am I not invited to places or in activities? We have all asked ourselves these questions in our lifetime, but we have never stopped to ask the other questions.
Am I not fitting in because I’m choosing different choices for myself? If I’m invited to those places will I have to change to fit in? The minute we stop and turn those negative questions and thoughts into positive ones, our perspective changes.
I used to be the kid who would get picked last in sports, was never invited into the cool kids’ club at school or invited to parties or special events that other people had. Sometimes I often wondered why it took me a long time to figure out my answer. It’s because somewhere deep down inside I didn’t feel the need to be part of the cool kids’ club. I didn’t need to be picked first in sports, nor did I really want to change to fit in and go to those parties.
When was the last time you had a negative thought about an invitation, or event, that you could have turned into a positive and done something for yourself? Taking time to recognize a different perspective may just lead you to a new revelation about yourself that you never knew was there.
The next time you’re not invited somewhere, not chosen for something, or simply not included in something, instead of wondering why not take a moment and wonder why it’s really not that important. After all, there could be another opportunity waiting for you.
P.s. If you need to work on understanding yourself, take the time to get to know who you are and what you want out of life. It could be a realization that you are amazing just the way you are.